Narcissism is a term that is often thrown around, but is misused. Not all violent and abusive men and narcissists, and not all narcissists are violent and abusive.
There is, however, often an overlap between abuse and narcissism, although not always consciously on the part of the narcissist.
So, want to know what narcissism looks like? Here are 5 traits to look out for:
1. Preoccupation with appearance: Narcissists are often impeccably dressed. In fact, whatever their style, they won’t leave the house unless they consider their appearance to be perfect. They may also be critical of others who they perceive to be dressed or styled in a way that they feel doesn’t meet their standards.
2. Overexaggerate their skills: Narcissists believe they are the best at what they do, whether that be art, photography, dance or in business. They may or may not believe it, but they will try and convince you that they are the best in their field and be dismissive of others whom they see as inferior. They may also exaggerate their wealth, status or social standing to impress you and others.
3. Cannot accept criticism: However constructive or unintentional, narcissists cannot accept criticism and may become overly defensive, emotional or aggressive if you offer any feedback, however well intentioned.
4. Overly concerned with what others think of them: I was once ignored by my partner for over a month because I made an innocent joke about my partner’s insensitivity. They believe that others put them on a pedestal and that everyone thinks very highly of them, even people they may not know that well. They are out to impress and maintain the image they have of themselves in the eyes of others.
5. Narcissists are perfectionists. Whether baking, housework, musical ability… narcissists will work hard to perfect whatever they turn their hand to and anything less than perfect just won’t do. If they bake a cake that goes flat they may throw it in the bin and sulk. They will work and work and work to get things just right, because anything less than perfection is unacceptable.
