Everyone experiences stress at some point in their lives, and studies show that a small amount of stress can actually be beneficial, helping us perform better in certain situations. However, too much stress can overwhelm us, leading to a feeling of being unable to cope and negatively impacting our health in various ways.

Many factors can trigger stress, with the most common being the breakup of a relationship, bereavement, financial difficulties, moving house, or family-related issues. If you’re at the end of a relationship, you may be dealing with several of these stressors simultaneously.

Symptoms of Stress

Stress can cause a wide range of psychological and physical symptoms. The following are some of the most common:

Psychological Symptoms:
– Feeling short-tempered, irritated with others, angry, or verbally aggressive
– Anxiety, fear, nervousness, or tearfulness
– Indecisiveness or inflexibility
– Insomnia or disturbed sleep patterns
– Loss of appetite or increased eating
– Loss or increase of sexual desire

Physical Symptoms:

– High blood pressure or increased pulse
– Shortness of breath
– Headaches or migraines
– Indigestion, acid heartburn, or stomach problems
– Increased perspiration
– Alopecia (hair loss) in both men and women
– General aches and pains
– Feeling run down or more susceptible to colds or flu

Seeking Help

If you believe you’re suffering from stress, it’s essential to seek help from your GP. They can discuss the possibility of counselling or refer you to another professional to talk through your problems. In some cases, medication may be prescribed if your symptoms are severe. However, medication should always be paired with counselling and not seen as a long-term solution.

The key to managing stress is recognising that you have a problem. Many of the physical symptoms you may experience are likely related to the emotional pressure you’re under. Learning to manage stress effectively is crucial to preventing further harm to your health.

Managing Stress Effectively

Stress from significant life events, such as the end of a relationship, often lasts over the long term. The key to managing these pressures is learning to minimize the stress we put on ourselves.

Here are some practical ways to manage stress effectively:

– Identify Your Triggers: Try to work out what situations cause you the most stress. It may not be immediately obvious, but with careful thought, you’ll likely recognise patterns.

– Evaluate Your Reactions: How do you typically react in stressful situations? Do you smoke, overeat, or lash out at others? Recognizing how you respond can help you adopt healthier coping mechanisms.

– Keep Perspective: Ask yourself if getting upset will change the outcome of the situation. A clear head will be essential, especially if you have practical or legal matters to address.

– Avoid Unhealthy Coping Strategies: Don’t rely on cigarettes or alcohol to manage stress. While these may offer temporary relief, they will ultimately worsen your ability to deal with stress.

– Practice Relaxation Techniques: When you feel angry, upset, or anxious, try to relax your muscles and take deep, measured breaths. Try breathing in deeply for three counts, holding it, and then slowly releasing. Repeat this process until you feel calmer. You can also use the “Stop” technique—close your eyes, say “Stop” forcefully to yourself, clear your mind, and count back slowly from ten.

– Exercise Regularly: Physical activity, such as walking, aerobics, or yoga, can help clear your mind and give you renewed energy to tackle issues more effectively.

– Take Time for Yourself: Even if you’re responsible for caring for others, it’s important to carve out time for self-care. An hour a week to visit a complementary therapist can be an excellent way to relax.

Complementary Therapies for Stress Relief

GPs increasingly recommend complementary therapies as effective methods for managing stress. Here are some of the most widely used therapies:

– Acupressure: This involves applying pressure to key points around the body, promoting the free flow of energy and alleviating stress and related symptoms.

– Aromatherapy: Using essential oils through massage or in baths and vaporizers can effectively relieve stress. The oils are blended specifically for the individual’s needs.

– Indian Head Massage: This massage focuses on the head, neck, and shoulders and is commonly used for stress relief. Many clients find it so relaxing that they fall asleep during treatment.

– Full Body Massage: A professional full-body massage releases tension and stress from the muscles, helping improve sleep and promote relaxation.

– Reiki: Based on an oriental form of healing, Reiki connects the client with the earth’s energy through the therapist’s hands, placed at key points around the body. It can be highly effective at reducing stress.

– Reflexology: Involves massaging key points on the feet to unblock energy lines throughout the body. Reflexology can help maintain overall health and treat specific conditions, including stress-related issues.

For further information on these therapies or to find a qualified therapist in your area, visit the website of the Federation of Holistic Therapists.