Arranging a funeral can feel overwhelming, especially during a time of grief. This guide to arranging a funeral walks you through each step, helping you make clear decisions while creating a meaningful tribute to your loved one.
Different faiths and cultures have their own customs. If this applies, it can help to speak to a faith leader or community representative to assist you in arranging a funeral for your loved one.
Who to Contact First
Before you begin arranging a funeral, there are a few important steps to take.
Register the death
See our section on Registering a Death for steps to take. You will need the Death Certificate in order to arrange the funeral.
Contact a funeral director
Most people choose to work with a funeral director. They can guide you through the process and manage practical arrangements such as transport, paperwork, and the service.
Consider arranging the funeral yourself
Arranging a funeral yourself, often called a DIY funeral, is entirely possible in the UK and can make the process more personal while reducing costs. You start by registering the death and deciding on burial or cremation, then contact the crematorium or cemetery directly to arrange a date and complete the required paperwork. You’ll also need to organise transport for your loved one, plan the service (including location, music, and who will lead it), and make sure any legal requirements are met. While it can feel like a lot, local councils and venues will guide you through the process, and having friends or family help on the day can make it far more manageable.
Initial Decisions
At this stage, you’ll need to make some key decisions.
Burial or cremation
Decide whether your loved one will be buried or cremated. This is often based on their wishes, religious beliefs, or family preferences.
Choose a funeral director
If you decide to use one, look for a professional who is a member of a recognised organisation such as the National Association of Funeral Directors or the National Society of Allied and Independent Funeral Directors. This helps ensure they meet professional standards.
Set a budget
Funeral costs can vary widely. Setting a clear budget early on will help guide your decisions and reduce stress later. Note that you if you are on benefits, you may be able to get a funeral payment from the Government. See helplines for further details.
Arranging the Funeral Service
Once the basics are in place, you can begin planning the service.
Location
Choose where the service will take place. This could be a place of worship, a crematorium or a non-religious venue.
Type of service
Decide whether the service will be religious, non-religious, or a mix of both. This will influence who leads it, such as a minister or celebrant.
Eulogy and readings
Plan the content of the service, including music, readings and who will speak.
Funeral notices
You may wish to share details on social media. If you include your home address, consider asking someone to watch your property while you are away.
Practical Arrangements
There are also practical details to consider.
Clothing and viewing
You may be asked to choose clothing for your loved one. You can also arrange a viewing in a Chapel of Rest if you wish.
Flowers or donations
Decide whether to have flowers or request donations to a chosen charity instead.
Transport
Arrange transport for the deceased and family members. This may include a hearse and additional vehicles.
Paying for the Funeral
Understanding how the funeral will be paid for is an important step.
Using the estate
Funeral costs are often paid from the deceased’s estate. Check the will for any instructions.
Government support
If you are on a low income or receiving benefits, you may be eligible for a Funeral Expenses Payment. This can help cover burial or cremation fees, transport, and some funeral director costs.
The Day of the Funeral
On the day itself, there is usually support in place to help things run smoothly.
The service
If you are working with a funeral director, they will coordinate the day and ensure everything runs as planned.
Reception
Many families choose to hold a gathering after the service. This could be at home, a venue or a restaurant. In some cases, guests contribute food.
After the Funeral
There are still a few decisions to make afterwards.
Grave or memorial
You may wish to arrange a headstone, plaque, or other memorial. A funeral director or local council can guide you.
Cremation memorials
If your loved one was cremated, many crematoriums offer memorial books or remembrance spaces.
Scattering ashes
If you choose to scatter ashes, select a meaningful location. Always check permissions if the land is not privately owned and check the weather on the day.
Memorial benches
If you would like to install a memorial bench, contact your local council for guidance on locations, costs, and conditions.
Arranging a funeral is a deeply personal process. There is no right or wrong way to do it, only what feels right for you and your family. Take your time, ask for support when you need it, and focus on creating a meaningful tribute.
